How to Be a Dominant Alpha Female
How to Be a Dominant Alpha Female
It's more common to hear people talk about alpha males and how to be one, but being an alpha female is equally important. An alpha female is a leader among her peers, whether it's at work, at home, or with friends. Even if you are a natural-born leader, you can still improve on your leadership and alpha status in all areas of your life. You can be the alpha female in the workplace as well as your own personal relationships.
Things You Should Know
  • Build your confidence by making a list of your best traits, and avoid putting yourself down in front of others to foster your self-esteem.
  • Own up to your mistakes to gain others' trust, and apologize only when it's really needed to avoid weakening your integrity.
  • Keep your chin up and your shoulders back to maintain a powerful posture. Volunteer for responsibilities at work, and lead the conversation by asking plenty of questions.

Changing Your Attitude

Be confident in yourself. This first step is certainly the hardest, but it is the most important. You need to realize that you have opinions and ideas that are worth being heard. If you don't see yourself as valuable, worthy of respect, or competent, then no one else will.

Fake it until you make it. The fastest ways to build confidence in yourself is pretend in order to make your confidence believable. You want to convince yourself as well as everyone around you that you're self-assured and capable.

Make a list of your best traits. Determine what you like best about yourself and your best talents and skills. You might be a good listener, imaginative, or empathetic to friends. Leave that list somewhere you can read it every day to remind yourself.

Start by setting new goals for yourself. For example, push yourself to meet and network with three new people a day. You will become more comfortable with yourself around all sorts of people and develop a web of contacts. Once you've completed one goal, make a new one to work towards so that you're always pushing yourself to be more personable and popular.

Self-evaluate yourself but don't put yourself down in front of others. You want to be critical of yourself in a healthy way that helps you grow as a person. Avoid being negative though. Be careful to not beat yourself up to where you doubt yourself. Give yourself constructive criticism in private and not in front of others because that may tell them that you don't think of highly of yourself and neither should they.

Gain respect from those around you. As the alpha, you want people to recognize that you are important and worthy of their respect. This will not happen overnight; you will need to work on building relationships where people can see your integrity and honesty. Those two traits, as well as eloquence, charm, and a strong work ethic will help build up your character in people's eyes. Even though you want the majority of people to like you, there will be people who do not. The end goal though is for people to respect you, whether they agree with you or not. They may not like you as a friend or coworker, but make sure that they can't deny your honesty, passion, and strength.

Apologize only when it's needed. Obviously, if you insult or hurt someone or make a mistake, you need to own up to it. But don't apologize for things that you are not accountable for because you will be perceived as weak. Females can be especially susceptible to wanting to apologize for every inconvenience but you need to determine when situations require a "pardon me"or "I'm deeply sorry."

Stop making excuses. Take responsibility for your actions and own up to everything you do, whether it's an accomplishment or a mistake. This is the kind of honesty and integrity that people associate with good leaders. You don't want to blame situations or other people for your mistakes.

Stay positive under stress. If you want people to look to you in times of stability as well as crisis, you need to be the one who does not appear to be affected by stress and pessimism. You may need to set aside emotions in order to see clearly through the storm of chaos, whether it's a looming deadline at work or a friend comes to you for help in search of advice. Use humor to lift others out of the stress, whether it's sarcastic, dry, or sincere.

Know what you want and ask for it. First, you need to determine what you want out of life. That could be any number of things, such as a raise, a healthy and stable family, a great relationship, respect and power, or even just being happy overall. Then, once you know what it is you want to acquire, go after it. Do not be afraid. If you feel that you have a right to higher wages or respect from others, then don't hesitate. Be prepared to give an answer as to why you want something. You may not always have to negotiate or argue, but you want to be prepared. Speak clearly and firmly when asking. Hesitation is a sign of weakness. Be persistent and don't give up because your perseverance will be respected in the long run. Don't plead or whine because that comes across as weak. Instead, act like you will get what you want so that it will show others that you are serious about this goal or proposition.

Working/Communicating With Others

Take control of the room. Alpha females are like "social conductors." They have the ability to be the center of attention where people will listen to what they say and do. You don't have to be the loudest person in the room. No matter how much you say, make sure it is worth hearing. Your words have impact on the people who look up to you so take time to think before you speak.

Be the most interesting person in the group. Ask other people about themselves and be interested in them rather than turning the spotlight on yourself. If you want to be interesting, be interested in others. Everyone likes to talk about themselves, and they will like you for listening to them.

Make your presence known. You want others to know when you're around and that the atmosphere of the room is different now that you've arrived. Practice walking into a room with your head held high, shoulders down, and a straight, firm walk. Act like you expect people to pay attention to you and they will.

Expand your circle of influence. Being an alpha female means that you can't be a loner. You want to be well-liked by everyone you meet and cultivate relationships that may one day lead to a future job promotion or an exciting party invitation. Don't forget to introduce people to each other. Take advantage of when you're the one person everyone knows in a group and introduce people.

Have many friends and acquaintances. You won't be best friends with the whole world, but you can make the effort to commit people's names to memory and learn something simple about them. When you remember them later, they'll like you because you made them feel important and memorable. However, remember to also have a close-knit group of friends and family on whom you can rely on to be your personal support system.

Support other women. Alpha female traits are steeped in feminist ideals such as the notion that women should be unified and stand together in society. Being alpha female does not mean that you put down other women and degrade them in order to elevate your own status. Instead, you should strive to create a strong group of women whether in your workplace or social life. Use your power and influence to help better others rather than isolating yourself. Take the time to get to know the women around you and learn to see their value. This can lead to mentorship. Mentoring other women is a great way to use your power for good. You have the ability to influence other people and develop their skills in the workplace or socially. You have the ability to cultivate the attitude of a group. It's better to develop a healthy bond with other women rather than surround yourself with those who would rather stir up contention and drama.

Maintain competition in your life. As alpha female, you need to stay at the top of your game. That may mean keeping up with the latest fashion trends or going the extra mile at work to make a good impression on your boss. As alpha female you need to avoid being stagnant. Push yourself to grow and learn about your job field, hobbies, or other interests.

Be self-reliant but don't do everything on your own. You should be capable of doing things for yourself and not be the damsel in distress in situations. This shows others that you are competent and don't need anyone. Just because you can fix a flat tire yourself or cook a meal for a party by yourself, doesn't mean that you can't recognize your your friends', family's, or coworkers' talents and abilities and get them involved. Asking others to come alongside of you and work together makes them feel needed and valued and they will look to you as the alpha.

Looking the Part

Dress to impress. You don't have to be decked out in a blazer, pencil skirt, and heels with a corner office to gain respect and attention from others. Dress to your own style and be consistent with it. Wear clothes that are presentable but that you also feel comfortable in in order to build your own confidence and communicate it to others. Invest in tailoring. Clothing that is too big or too tight will subconsciously show people that you don't know your own body and how to properly dress yourself. Pick out a few accessories that stand out. You can make people interested in you by choosing striking accessories such as a statement necklace or brightly colored shoes or purses.

Smile. This is a simple step but an important one. Smiling tells people that you are positive, are liable, and can be trusted. Appearing positive and well-groomed is a way to boost people's loyalty to you as the alpha.

Take care of your body. As an alpha female, people will look to you for direction in life so being healthy and fit is important. It's one way to set a positive example for the people under your influence as well as protect your body from the stress of life. Be careful not to conforming to popular fads and diet trends that may not work so that you are taking care of yourself and setting a good example for others.

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